The title should really say, “New Year and What Life!” It’s been almost 5 years since I penned my last post, and life took over to the point that I completely forgot about my blog. I was reminded of it a few days ago, and as I re-read my previous posts, it brought back so many memories and at times made me wonder who wrote them–oh that’s right, I did! I feel like such a different person from who I was 5 years ago, but in so many ways I’m still the same.
As I tried to figure out how I would embark on my re-introduction to the blogosphere, I found a 1/1/2015 draft post that has been waiting for over 4 years to be published. It was unfinished, but I am still posting it (untouched) because it gives a recap of some of the big changes that have occurred in my life. I’ll spare you the details (which could actually be turned into a NYT best- selling book) about my life over the past 5 years and instead allow you to find out as I get back to penning my thoughts:
New Year and New Life
What a whirlwind 2014 it has been! I wouldn’t change any of it, and as I reflect on it, 2014 was a year of new beginnings and embracing the unknown.
Some people aren’t into New Year’s resolutions, and typically I’m not either. But I’ve realized that as I embark on each new year, my lofty goals/resolutions can become lost in the shuffle of the daily grind of life. Last year, I blogged about the things that I hoped to accomplish in 2014. It was a hefty list of the top 14 things that I wanted to ensure that I stuck to, and for the most part, I did!
I titled the post “New Year New Things” but not all of the items were new, some were goals that I simply wanted to work harder toward achieving and they all boil down to self-improvement. Here’s how I made out with last year’s list:
Purchase a home – Four months into 2014, I finally found the house I was willing to purchase. At the time it was merely a plot of land with dirt. The wait to see the finished product seemed like it took forever; but a few weeks ago, I was finally able to call myself a homeowner of a beautiful 4-story townhome.
2. Listen more say less – This one is always a challenge and something that I will constantly have to work on. But I learned something new as I worked through this resolution–I discovered that not everything that someone says is worthy of you hearing. Sometimes you have to filter out the noise and trust your own voice.
Spend more time with family – I rang in 2014 with an amazing trip to South Africa with my mother. It was great mother-daughter bonding time and one of the few times we’ve taken a trip with just the two of us. I also lived with my sister for a few months while my home was being completed. I don’t think we’ve lived under the same roof since she left for college.
Love fearlessly/Embrace my vulnerability – I was very committed to this one last year, but not sure how much I stepped outside of my comfort zone. Nevertheless, sometimes the universe helps us when we try to get in our own way. I’m in love with the most amazing man who accepts my flaws, inspires me to be myself and nurtures my vulnerability. I don’t want to paint a totally flowery picture, but you know you’ve met the one for you not only because you feel the happiest you’ve ever felt with someone, but also because he gets you and you get him.
5. Take the leap to becoming an adjunct professor – I taught two law school classes in my practice area. Preparing lesson plans and PowerPoint presentations is not always easy when you have a full-time job. But my interest in shaping the lives of young social engineers has piqued my desire to continue to teach.
6. Put God first – A continuous work in progress. My Type-A personality always interferes with this one. My faith always gets me through difficult situations, but I have to constantly remind myself that I am not in control. When we put God first, we reaffirm our faith that with Him all things become possible. Won’t He do it!
7. Trust my gut and never second guess myself – I’ve definitely made leaps and strides on this one but more to come. See #2 above.
8. Charge my friends for legal services – I didn’t charge any friends, but many of them stopped reaching out for legal advice (they must have read the previous blog post). But I did obtain a few referrals for paying clients.
9. Make a power career move – I’ve laid the foundation–let’s see what happens in 2015!
10. Redefine success – When I began the year, I was prepared to craft my own definition of what success would mean for my life. However, since finding out that I we are expecting our first child, I’ve once again changed that definition. What success meant for me in 2014 is starkly different from what it means to me now that I am embarking on motherhood. A future post will discuss this further.
11. Pray more – See number 6.
12. Put less weight into how I am perceived – See number 7.
Tighten the inner circle – To my friends, it may seem that I have really clinched my circle too tight and pushed them out. The reality is, life takes over and I constantly find myself wishing there were more hours in the day. In 2015, it may seem like the circle has been squeezed even smaller than a needle hole, but with my baby arriving in a few months (yep you read that correctly!), I’m sure the time spent with friends will be even more limited, but I plan to do my best.
14. Exercise more – I won’t use becoming pregnant as an excuse, but walking up a flight of stairs causes me to become winded these days. But as soon as this baby arrives, my goal is to hit the gym to get the baby weight off ASAP!
For 2015, I haven’t created any resolutions. I plan to embrace life and the uncertainty that comes with it. It goes without saying that I will continue to put God first, and I will definitely need to hit the gym to return to my pre-baby weight, but I’m entering uncharted territory. This is the world where I have to finally accept that my life isn’t completely within my control.
It’s 2019 and many of the items in that list still ring true and have come to pass. My baby boy (who now stands at more than half my height) came 3 months and 15 days after I drafted that post. He’s added so much joy to my life and he’s the reason that I can now say with certainty that every parent deserves an award for surviving child rearing! I don’t care how successful your child becomes–you get them to 18 out of your house, you should get a medal! Look forward to my parenting posts that will explain why.
There are so many topics that have come to mind that I intended on blogging about (i.e., dating as a single-parent, operation varsity blues, politics, raising a little black boy, etc.). I can’t wait to share them with you and to read your feedback!