I recently came across this quote: “Look back in forgiveness, look forward in trust, [live] now in love.” At first glance I considered it yet another ordinary quote. But like most things I read/hear, I stored it away and processed it later. As I was flying home, sitting quietly with my thoughts, I started to think about those 12 simple words and realized that it surmised how I try to live my life. Admittedly I am far from perfect, and oftentimes struggle with the forgiveness, trust and love actions. But If I could live according to those words life would continue to bring me an abundance of happiness.
Let me take a moment to break down these three acts.
I try not to look back unless it’s to remind myself of previous life lessons. But at times, I reflect on the past with a bitter heart–to remind myself of when I’ve been wronged. Healing begins with forgiveness. An apology isn’t necessary before we start to forgive (and oftentimes that apology may never come). We don’t forgive to let others off the hook. Rather, we forgive to allow our broken hearts to mend. A bitter heart will not trust nor can it receive love.
I battle with these five letters on a daily basis. I trust two people in the entire world–that’s myself and God. Well maybe just God–sometimes I can’t trust myself when left to my own devices. Okay, if I’m really going to be honest, at times I’ve questioned my faith in Him as well. Bottom line, I have trust issues. For some, trusting is easy, but I’ve tried a couple approaches: trust until the person gives you a reason not to trust him/her; stay weary until you have built up trust in a person. None of these have been 100% effective. I am not going to try to proffer advice on something I may never master. But I do know that being able to trust and to be trusted is a fundamental requirement to a happy life.
Live now in love. Can someone love if he/she hasn’t learned to forgive and trust? The answer is likely no, but I may have found a loophole! Living in love is what maintains my happiness. I love to see others succeed, I love to see others happy, I love to find the best characteristics in everyone. Okay, maybe I’ve redefined love. But like I mentioned above, I have trust and forgiveness issues, so this is my workaround. If we’re talking about love–like
handing over sharing my heart–then I still have some work to do in that regard. But I’ve tried to demonstrate my love to those who matter the most to me, in the best way I can.
I told you those twelve simple words packed a big punch. Take some time to reflect on what the quote means to you and whether you live your life accordingly.