We have all had at least one experience that has blindsided us in a negative way (if you haven’t then stop reading this post because you have more living to do!). I am referring to the friendship/relationship that ended on a bad note and you didn’t see it coming. It doesn’t have to be a relationship with a significant other, it might have been a friend or a family member that you were forced to cut out of your life. You were left without the answers that we all believe we need to get “closure” (a word I find very overrated) or you receive an answer that ranks high on the BS-OMeter.
over-thinker philosopher in me used to spend brain power trying to decipher the answers to questions like how did things go awry? What could I have done differently to affect the outcome? Why was I so naive to this impending disaster? (yes, I talk to myself often) Nowadays I rarely dwell on the answers to these questions. To quell the desire to seek closure from the person who caused me harm, I adopted the mantra “that’s life” (my PG version of sh*t happens). If that response doesn’t suffice, my new answer will be “(s)he faked the whole thing”–the person you thought (s)he was just isn’t who (s)he is so accept it and keep it moving.
So the next time you can’t figure out why your prince charming turned out to be a jerk, or if you’re wondering why the guy you called your homie constantly speaks badly about you, just tell yourself–(s)he faked the whole thing! You may never obtain the answer you’re looking for from the one who caused you pain; therefore, creating your own answer may be all that we need to move on.